14 November 2006

I give in...

" 'The whole problem with people is...
they know what matters, but they don't choose it.' "
- Sue Monk Kidd, The Secret Life of Bees

"I give in to sin
Because you have to make this life livable...
Will you take the pain
I will give to you
Again and again
And will you return it..."
-Depeche Mode, Strangelove

See what happens when you listen to the radio while reading a book... thought processes take on a whole different direction.

The combination of the two quotes leads me back to something I've been spending a lot of time thinking about lately: the choices we make. How the choices one person makes can affect so many other people, and how we decide which choices to make purely on the basis of how they affect us personally, or how they affect everyone else.

It seems that we all have a different way of making these decisions, everyone knows people who only consider others in making decisions about their lives, and we all know people who never consider others. The obvious "right" answer is somewhere in the middle. Unfortunately one can never know all the ways in which their choices will affect others, so we have to make decisions based on assumption.

I am a firm believer in making choices which are right for you in the moment, while keeping the rest of the world (or at least those who matter most) in your peripheral vision. One can not look back on the past with regret, because at that time, with the knowledge you had, you made the decision that was right. I really don't think there are too many people in the world that consider their options and choose the least desirable alternative on purpose, though I do believe that sometimes we don't bother to consider all of the options, and make rash decisions. But, that is a whole different post.

Me? Meh. I just follow my intuition.

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